Girl’s Trip is THE ISH!
Like every other woman of color in the America of the United States, I too went to the movies to indulge in Girl’s Trip with some of my faves and we all laughed our asses off! The movie was so damn good that I had to see it twice. And, like everyone else, I compared myself and my SistaFrans to all of the women in the movie to see which character we most closely resembled. The more that I got to thinking about it, the more that I got sentimental just thinking about how truly blessed that I am to have the village of women that I do surrounding me. Don’t get it twisted- I ain’t no punk bitch! Lol.
Comprised of women from my childhood, my high school and college years, and just who I met along the way while growing in life, I have a village of sisters who have helped to raise me up and build me into the woman that I am today. There are some other women, like my Soul Sista Dionna, who I have known for roughly 2 years and it feels like we have known each other for a lifetime. Or my childhood friend Trish who I met in kindergarten. The Harriet the Spy to my Janie, we lost contact for many years and became reacquainted like we never left. These women are my loves, but for this particular post I am talking about those women who have for 10+ years, consecutively and consistently, seen me broken and bruised and have cleaned my wounds and helped me to feel whole again. I thank God for them because they have raised me, teaching me lessons within our friendship that have helped me to be a better woman and friend.
For instance, my godsister Amber is my Mother Hen. She’s the one that I go to when I am emotionally hurt and vulnerable and need to be comforted. Talking with her always makes me feel like I can feel the floor again when the figurative rug has been pulled from under my feet. However, when I feel overwhelmed and need a solution I call on my bestie Ree from high school and a fellow Musketeer, the Souljah. Yes I spelled it that way on purpose because she’s a professional and a thug at the same time. LOL. Real ish though my bestie Ree is my friend that I go to when I need resolutions and she’s willing to fight for me and with me if it goes down that way. She’s my Rider. Lizzie, my other love from high school and the third piece to the Musketeers, is my Motivational Speaker. Whenever I feel like crap about myself, Liz always feeds me, uplifts me and encourages me to see myself in all of my regality. That would explain why my girl is so damn bougie lol*insert side eye emoji* She knows she’s a Queen and reminds me that I am too. Raica is my Vision Partner who gives me a boost in morality and development whenever I need it. If I have a vision that I need to get off of the ground or a dream that I am working on, Raica uplifts me to feel as though I’ve got this in the bag. JoJo is the Devil’s Advocate, challenging me to view the other perspective when I come to her with a problem with someone, but her loyalty has it so that she will eff somebody up for me- right or wrong. Christina “Green Glasses” is my Prayer Partner- whenever I need a reminder from God about where my life is going and where He has brought me, Chris brings that reality check to my spiritual side. And Moe, the daughter of my mother’s identical twin (my cousin) and the first best friend that I could ever ask for, she’s my Rational Thinker/ Personal Buddha. She brings me calm and rationale when I am unsure of what I should be doing or when I am questioning myself. Her opinions matter to me that I am doing the right thing.
All of these women carry the same characteristics in them- they all motivate me, encourage me, give me the other perspective, remind me of God’s glory- but each woman brings her special flavor to a specific area of my life. And the crazy part is that these heifas all LIKE EACH OTHER! When your team fucks with your team, how can you get a better village than that? I salute my girlfriends because at a time when loyalty is low and this “what can you do for me?” attitude is high, these women give me them selflessly and without restriction. The love is unconditional. And while some friendships within this bunch have been directly challenged or been challenged by distance and time, the love stays real and it continues to grow. Like Dina said in the movie, I LOVE YOU HEIFAS AND I WOULD DIE FOR EVERY ONE OF YA. And don’t you forget it.